My Son Is Not Like Yours–So What?

by GettingFreedom on June 21, 2012

No one is alike.  We all know this right?

I’m tall. Some may say I’m too tall for a girl.

My hair is brown, and very thin. And I’m cool with that. Most days.

I could stand to lose a little bit of weight.  But chocolate keeps calling my name.

I’m a Conservative Christian.  No one is changing that. :)

But the one thing that you an I have in common is this—We have feelings.  We’re all people, that are here for one purpose.

To spread the love of Jesus.

So every time you tell me I’m too tall, or my hair is too thin, or I’m too fat–you’re not showing me that Jesus loves me.

You’re telling me that you’re better than me.  Somehow.

While I can handle your words–my children cannot.

When your children hear you talk about other people in a not so nice way, they think it’s okay for them to say those same things {and sometimes even worse things!} to their peers.

You know what?  I’ve had enough!

Our oldest hasn’t always had the easiest life.  He came into my life rather unexpectedly, and his days since then have been nothing short of a miracle.

He has a purpose here. Just as you and I both do. None more important than the other.

Two of the things in wants most in this life are this::

To be good at sports.


To be cool.

Two things his peers continuously tell him he’s no good at.

I can tell him all I want–but your children’s words cut deep.

He may not be a victim of physical bullying, but he experiences emotional bullying almost every single day.  You know what, sometimes I think the emotional bullying is worse.  Those words replay over and over in his mind.

In addition to being told he isn’t good enough, he’s made fun of for his appearance. I know I’m partial, but I think he’s mighty handsome!

Why?  Because he doesn’t look like you. And I don’t want him to!

You know that tube that runs down the side of his neck?  It saved his life.

His head, while it may be bigger than yours, was a result of physical abuse.  He almost died–but God saved him.  And in return, he’s one of the smartest kids you will ever meet–if you only talked to him. 

Do me a favor, will ya?

Watch your words.  Little ears are listening to you talk amongst your friends, and they use you as a guide for what they can say to theirs.

Let’s build each other up, not tear each other down.


Do you know someone who is a victim of bullying?  

Here are some resources::

8 Skills to Stop Bullying

7 Bullying Resources for Parents

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{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

Monique June 21, 2012 at 10:23 am

He is absolutely gorgeous!

Thoughts and prayers with you all!


Candra June 21, 2012 at 11:02 am

I love your beautiful babies! And always will <3


GettingFreedom June 25, 2012 at 8:53 am

And they love you, Candra!


GettingFreedom June 25, 2012 at 8:53 am

Thank you, Monique! :)


Nancy June 21, 2012 at 4:36 pm

I’m so sorry to hear about the unkind words toward your son I have a disabled son and I also hear comments made toward him and also the looks because he doesn’t look like everyone but your right God made us for a purpose and one day your son will be able to testify of Gods mercy, love and grace in his life to touch other people lives:)


GettingFreedom June 25, 2012 at 8:52 am

Right now that’s the only thing I can hope for. I just wish that children knew just how hurtful their words were. So sorry that your son is experiencing this as well.


Jessica Y June 21, 2012 at 9:20 pm

I’m sorry. I know it must hurt.


GettingFreedom June 25, 2012 at 8:51 am

More than I could ever put into words.


Nicole June 22, 2012 at 9:46 am

I know exactly how you feel! My middle child has been ruthlessly picked on the entire year of school. He is the most loving and happy boy, but there are children who love to do nothing but tear him down. I believe that children need to be taught compassion by their parents, I teach mine treat others as you want to be treated, and what I love is that even though he has been picked on he will not stand for others being picked on. He has stood up for kids who have been picked on who are younger, smaller, or handicapped and let the bullies know he’s seen what they have done and would not let them continue. But for some reason he has a really hard time when it comes to the bullies who bully him. I am hoping that as he moves to middle school that the bullying will not get worse. I hope the same for your son that his days will soon be filled with loving and faithful friends. Thank you for the moving post.


GettingFreedom June 25, 2012 at 8:50 am

Thankfully Nik doesn’t like for others to be picked on either. He’s found himself in the middle of fights that aren’t his because of it.

This past year has been a really tough one for him. We pulled him out of public school last year because it was just terrible–with the hopes that he would return next year since Middle School is a different building with all new teachers/administration. This last year we’ve really focused on building him up and letting him realize who he is in Christ. We were gaining ground {I thought}, but we’re still not where we feel comfortable to mainstream him again.

Praying for your son, Nikki! It’s difficult watching your children go through this.


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